They is an adage that say, love is not by force and if you discover that someone that you love doesn’t love you back then it is better to leave the person and look for someone else that will love you back. If your man does these 5 things to you, leave him immediately. Don’t say I did not warn you.
Don’t just stand by and get treated like a piece of trash, leave him immediately and go for another person. In this article I will give you some serious ‘keys’ to help you point out when to leave a toxic relationship and stop wasting your time. So if your man does these 5 things! Then it is for your best interest to leave him immediately and look for someone else.
1. He gets violent, even if he doesn’t hit you
You may think this is a no-brainer but honestly it isn’t. Most women I know who have been in abusive relationships have immense strength, only to shut down in the presence of her partner’s anger and violence. As a strong woman myself, I froze when a guy I would been dating went into a rage one night, throwing things, damaging property and calling me names. I knew it was a deal breaker because even though he didn’t put his hands on me, he scared me. No healthy relationship can be built off a foundation of fear because you never know when his actions may escalate.
2. He cheats on you
Many people will say this point is debatable because lots of couples who have fidelity issues repair their relationship and end up in a better than where they were pre-cheating. But it’s not the act of cheating that’s the deal breaker here, it is the disrespect, broken trust and significant risk to your health. (Hello, STDS!) With all the risks that hang in the balance for just a tiny bit of pleasure, it is entirely inconsiderate and selfish when a man cheats on you. Do you want someone who puts his wants before your needs, like security and trust? I don’t, which is why I have said goodbye to cheating men.
3. He doesn’t claim or proclaim you.
Many women will spend time in limbo-like relationships with guys who won’t give them the girlfriend title. Here is the truth, if you have been dating a man for longer than six to nine months and he hasn’t made you an official part of his life, it’s time to move on. Stop making excuses for why things aren’t progressing to the next level; you will only waste time and your time is worth more than that. These days, I don’t settle for less because I don’t want a man who makes you a bargain-bin find. If he knows your worth, he will claim and proclaim you and there will be few conversations about how ‘he isn’t ready.’
4. He suffers from addiction.
There are plenty of honor badges to be earned by standing by your man when he is fallen on hard times. But caution if you stick with a man fighting demons, namely addiction. Addiction can range from less-severe, like cigarettes, to major issues such as drug, alcohol and sex. Someone who suffers from an addiction will do anything and I mean anything to get their fix, even at the expense of those they love. So unless you would like to be second to whatever vices he has, it may be time to leave him if he doesn’t leave smoke.
5. He gaslights you.
We’ve spoken about gas-lighting, which is the manipulative act of someone attempting to change your memory or perception of events in their favor, making you feel crazy or like you’ve forgotten something. But when is gas-lighting a deal breaker, you ask? The answer is when it happens! A man who resorts to manipulative tactics to have his way or ‘win’ an argument will continue to play mind games and be dishonest with you. When I experienced gas-lighting in my relationships, I felt crazy and my self-esteem plummeted until I understood the game that was being played. Take advantage of the situation and leave immediately — it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.