Jim Iyke Reveals Why His First Marriage Collapsed

Nollywood actor, Jim Iyke has revealed that he is not a bachelor as many people has speculated, rather he was married before and his first marriage crashed but not many people know about that part of his life. Jim Iyke who is a father of three children noted that he was the cause of his marriage failure.

While having a chat with media personality, Chude Jideonwo, the actor stated that his marriage failed due to the death of his mother. He stated that while grieving over his mother’s death he emotionally abandoned his partner who recently gave birth to his first son. Jim Iyke further noted that he invested all the love he had in his child and left his wife behind.

According to his words; “I have had a failed marriage but nobody knows about that. I have three kids. I caused my marriage to fail. I am not the type that would blame anybody for my mistakes. There is a saying, to boss up, own up. There is a part of me that would take the easier route out. Anytime I did anything mediocre in my life, I always did it when I was emotional because I am extremely proficient in being deliberate and being strategic about everything I do. Every time I failed it was because I got emotional. I became mediocre then I appeal to the smaller man in me and the part that was not emotionally intelligent,” he stated.

In a part of his interview, he noted that due to his closeness with his mother, no one was willing to inform him about her death. He said; “When I lost my mother, I could not find my feet for years. There was a lifestyle, spiritual connection that I lost. It took them 72 hours to tell me that I had lost my mother. I just got out of an interview in London. There is always that one person in the family that is a deliverer of bad news. The person who does that in our family said he would not break the news to me because there is a great chance I would not make it,” he stated.

Speaking of how his mother’s demise affected his relationship with his wife and son, the multiple award-winning actor stated; “Just when I was getting over it, my woman was pregnant with my first son. I had a quiet space, there was nobody around me to take care of me anymore. There was nothing all of a sudden and the grief hit me. The loss hit me and I could not sleep for days. I was irritated and was not the loving man she met.

“I am a goofball, forget the perception out there. I am the prankster of the family and the guy that starts the laugh at the most serious issue. They don’t even invite me to family meetings because I start with a joke and then my father calls me to order. I lost my sense of humour, the lion in me and the leader in me. I just gave myself to the elements, so she suffered for that. I became an obsessive dad. I took everything in me to my son.

“I was changing diapers, I was the proper stay-home dad. I took everything to him and left her behind. I took all my love and attention and invested it in my son and left her behind. I was an excellent father but a terrible husband. She was a white lady, she was not built like us Africans. After a while, she said, I can’t find who I married. Then we parted and went our separate ways.

Before our separation, I told her, I am here but I am not here. There is no presence here. I don’t know what it would take me to heal and bring myself back here but if you want to wait for me I will appreciate it and if you can’t I will understand’. She said she can’t. And that is how I lost my first union. Since then till date I have not been able to find someone compatible with me,” he stated.

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